Rejection is not the end of the world 😱

Jun 17

Nobody likes getting rejected but it is part of life. Not everybody wants to buy what we're selling. Not everyone wants to connect. Not everyone wants to be our friend. That's okay.

I was rejected recently. I met someone at a wedding I went to, someone who was part of the same group we both belonged to years ago. For some reason, we never talked back then. After meeting her, I thought –What a shame! We connected right away and I liked her energy. I told her hey, we should be friends. And she said yeah, you've got my phone now, and we'll connect on Instagram, and so on.

She flew back West to her home the next day. I reached out a couple days later to share about something she mentioned she especially loved from her days here in Chicago. It was a vintage photo of a store she enjoyed shopping at. That store doesn't exist anymore so it was a cool find.

She replied something that didn't have anything to do with what I mentioned and I haven't heard from her since.

Well, we know that people do get busy. Maybe she's got other stuff going on in her life. Who knows. But the reality is when we care to nurture a connection, we do it. The connection for her obviously wasn’t strong enough to do that. And you know what? That's okay. That's perfectly okay. I thought about it for a while. I ruminated a bit. We wonder. Like I said, we hit it off right away. But I accept it. The connection wasn't as strong for her. Rejection doesn't have to shock my sense of self. I'm still me living my life and I'm still happy to have met her.

Nobody likes getting rejected but it is part of life. It’s part of making choices. We are all individuals. We have our own thoughts, our own feelings, our own life situations, our druthers. We, in fact, do the rejecting sometimes, too. We choose what we want and what we need for ourselves. We say yes or no to an invitation for lunch or a party or a night out. We say yes or no to people we don’t know well and to people we really like, too.